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The Loneliest Place Is A Crowd Of People


Natalie wrote:

So have you ever felt so alone that you feel like you are the only person in the world that knows how your feeling? Or you’re the only person you can really truly talk to because no one else cares…. or doesn’t get it?

I’m not talking about just no one to talk to about problems… I’m talking about there are people there; just no one gets it … really. They all say “oh I’m sorry” or “oh yeah I get it” when inside you’re like “LIAR you have no idea!!!”

I just feel lately I’m surrounded by people but I’m so alone. Which is a strange feeling because I thought being alone was always literally being alone … not being surrounded by people and having no where to turn.

I don’t know what it is about people, but they constantly keep outside my grasp of understanding. So yes, you could say I feel or have felt the way you describe yourself feeling.

You may be entering (or are in the middle of) an adjustment phase. A phase where you are leaving an old part of yourself; one which was fulfilled by the friends and social circumstances you currently have. And the new you, the fresh and untested you, requires a deeper connection with the world around you.

Let’s compare this to swimming lessons. One method of teaching a child to swim is to use a boat. Take the child in the boat, and row a short distance from the land. Then take the child and place it outside the boat. It’s the instinct of survival that pushes the child to quickly adapt, and swim to shore.

There are certain lessons in life which are obtained only through great sacrifice to the obtainer. In the analogy, the child learns how to swim the hard way. In the waters of life, this can be the difference between life and death.

This could be life’s invitation to expand your horizons. Meet new people, and try new things. Perhaps the point of the exercise is to drive you into finding yourself.

Title image used with permission and courtesy of Ciril Jazbec [1], check out the original here [2].